Showing posts with label management. Show all posts
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Friday, May 18, 2018

Right Livelihood -- Or How My Christian Dad Taught Me To Be A Better Buddhist

Contained within the Noble Eightfold Path's teachings of Ethics are Right Action, Right Speech, and Right Livelihood. It is Right Livelihood which I want to focus on in this article. However, I have found that one can not truly practice Right Livelihood without Right Action, and Right Speech.

The Buddha teaches that occupations which involve the trading of people (slavery, and prostitution), making and selling weapons, poisons, and intoxicants, and killing sentient beings, all violate the Noble Eightfold Path's step of Right Livelihood.

Keep in mind that the economy of 500 BC was quite different than it is now. These days so many companies that we may work for are owned by larger companies, which are owned by even larger corporations, which may be involved in a great many number of interests and industries. This makes it very difficult to know for whom we actually work.

This is why Buddha's teaching in the Maha-cattarisaka Suttra is so much more meaningful to me:
"And what is wrong livelihood? Scheming, persuading, hinting, belittling, and pursuing gain with gain. This is wrong livelihood."
This statement, to me, is very apt when examining the practice of Right Livelihood. It implies that in order to successfully practice Right Livelihood, one must, without exception, practice Right Action, and Right Speech in accordance with Right Livelihood.

Buddha's list of occupational don'ts for Right Livelihood can make us feel as though we are on shaky ground, both professionally and ethically. But, the basics we can agree on: murder, stealing, and trading in people is an abhorrent practice, and horrifically, is still an issue in modern times. However, some occupations that many of us rely on can fall under his list of discouraged occupations. Many cultures, and economies rely on farming animals. My wife's family made their living as ethical dairy farmers. They also grew soy beans, so maybe that helped in accepting their vegetarian son-on-law! And, currently, a social battle wages in our country over guns. In fact, the day that I am writing this, another school shooting has occurred. We've seen the lines blurred between a common street drug pusher, and a doctor with a quick and loose prescription pad, prescribing harmful opioids, rather than helping a patient find a root-cause, or holistic solution to theirhealth issues. I work for a company which sells a wide variety of goods including meat and liquor. I love my job, and support my company, and I love -- LOVE -- my wine!

All this said, how do we rectify what we do for a living, while negotiating the sometimes rocky road of the Noble Eightfold Path? As Action, Speech, and Livelihood are all contained within the threefold teachings of Ethics, it is evident that each of these share a symbiotic relationship. It is not necessarily the job we have, it is how we conduct ourselves on the job that matters. It is how we treat our co-workers, bosses, and clients that matter. It is how we find gratitude in our work that matters. It is how we manage our work/life balance that matters.

I have often had to have unfortunate conversations with non-productive employees, and even employees who have stolen, or caused hostile work-place situations. I find it is these moments where disciplining an employee is where Right Action, and Right Speech are vitally important. I have learned the hard way over the years that, no matter the infraction, treating even the most frustrating employee with kindness, respect, and empathy are the keys to keeping me focused on Right Action, Speech, and Livelihood. These help to keep those difficult conversations respectful, and focused. You can be honest, and direct, yet manage to maintain one's esteem by minding your tone, and body language. 

The same goes for dealing with difficult customers or clients, or as Earl Nightingale calls them, "The Boss." To paraphrase Nightingale, they can be kind, or difficult, however, they ultimately sign your paycheck. 

These is no greater test of Right Action, Right Speech, and Right Livelihood, in my humble opinion, than taking care of, and serving your customers. I do not care what kind of work you do, we all serve somebody. I have been working as a customer service professional for almost thirty years. In that time, I have met some wonderful people, and those who have challenged my faith in humanity! Moreover, I have worked with many people who over complicate this industry with rules, regulations, and policy. Myself included. 

Over the last few years I have reexamined my philosophy and approach on serving my customers, as well as my own Buddhist practice. As a result, I have boiled down my approach to service by these two points:


  1. Treat EVERY customer as you would want your mom treated.
  2. Approach EVERY customer with gratitude, as they keep gas in your car, and food in your fridge.
So Right Livelihood is not that hard. Speak kindly and respectfully to all with whom you work. Act with integrity -- do not seek gain by swindling your customer, or sell them on something that you wouldn't want sold to you or your loved ones. Never put yourself in a position that would allow your integrity to be questioned. Work to your full effort, so that your behavior may earn you the respect of your employees, co-workers, customers, and supervisors. 

The latter point can also be explained as Napoleon Hill's QQMA formula:

"The Quality of Service rendered + the Quantity of Service rendered + a Positive Mental Attitude, is in direct proportion to your rewards."
These rewards can be financial, but most importantly, they are also rewards in the form of respect, self-esteem, and the confidence of your team, bosses, and customers. 

To this day, I have no better influence, and example of Right Livelihood and work ethic than my Dad. I can remember as a teenager he was working for a company that he was leaving. Despite the fact that he was soon to be leaving that job, he was still the first person in the office every morning, and would make sure to turn the lights off when he was the last to leave. 

He could have said, "screw this place, so long as the check clears," but it wasn't just about a paycheck. It was about his integrity. 

To this day when I am at work, I do reflect on Right Action, Right Speech, and Right Livelihood when making decisions. But rather than asking "what would Buddha do?" I ask myself, "what would Dad do?"

Thursday, March 15, 2018

Right Speech is $#@&ing Hard!


Even Buddha had his bad days, right?


When I began this blog, my goal was a weekly contemplation on each step of the Noble Eightfold Path, and how they may be applied to meeting our daily challenges and achieving our goals. However it's been a few weeks since my last post. This is partly due to a hectic workload, being sick, and more so, due to my own challenges in research and application of Right Speech. The research part of it was pretty easy. There are some amazing dharma talks, books, YouTube videos, podcasts, and articles on the subject (I'll be referencing some of them at the end of this post.) The difficulty was in the application! 

Going into it, I thought, “Right Speech can’t be too hard, right? Just don’t say anything stupid!” Well, what if you’re someone like me whose filter works intermittently? Well, I learned that Right Speech could sometimes be easier in concept than in practice.

The week that I was going to commit pen to paper on Right Speech was a busy and stressful workweek. It was full of challenges related to execution of task, routine, and co-workers. The biggest frustration was from myself, when realizing that I was struggling on the Path to navigate these challenges, and not making good on my personal commitment to Right Speech.

Now, I put in a lot of hours reading, listening, watching, meditating, and studying about Right Speech. I came away with many great, and useful points. I learned that Buddha proclaimed Right Speech as being void of lying, gossip, idle chatter, and devisiveness. This makes total sense, as Right Speech, and Right Action are combined in the tenant of Ethics, or Morality.

The commitment, or act of Speech, whether in a conscious internal dialogue, or outward physical conversation can have an effect on ourselves, and those around us. If we are to engage in speech that is Right, which is motivated to promote unity, praise, or kindness, we have a positive effect on ourselves and others. When we take on the Action of Speech which contains the negative attributes that Buddha warns us of, we can create hostility towards others and ourselves.

I started this blog motivated by my passions for Buddhism, self-improvement, cartooning, writing, and Law of Attraction. Learning about the Law of Attraction, and seeing its similarities to the Noble Eightfold Path initially inspired me to dive into this research, and document my journey. I wanted to explore how the lay, or secular Buddhist practitioner can apply the Noble Eightfold Path to winning at ones goals, facing everyday challenges, and improving ones self-esteem. 

As someone who lives by the mantra, "be better than you were yesterday," I try to learn and adapt everyday. Sometimes constantly... and admittedly, with little success.  As a result, I feel that this blog itself should adapt in the same manner. As John Lennon sang in his song, Beautiful Boy:

"Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans."

I realized that, for me, Right Understanding is perhaps the most obvious step. I readily accept, and recognize everyday the origination of my suffering. Which is usually from my own actions. Right Thought turned out to be easier than I once believed. I learned that I could be mindful of the negative thoughts and guide them elsewhere. I learned that the dark, weird, or fretful thoughts will just ebb and flow, and if I put my foot down, they will be temporary visitors. They'll soon leave and be replaced with more pleasant thoughts thanks to creative visualization, and rationalization.

Now this is where Right Speech soon became a bigger challenge than I anticipated.

Despite Speech and Thought being separated within the tenants of Ethics and Wisdom, respectfully, they both seem to be quite intertwined. One who thinks negatively, or has a negative outlook on life tends to speak negatively. One of my favorite books, which I have referenced here before, The Magic Of Thinking Big by Dr. David J. Schwartz, speaks to this point very eloquently:

“Words are the raw materials of thought. When spoken or read, that amazing instrument, the mind, automatically converts words and phrases into mind pictures. Each word, each phrase, creates a slightly different mind picture… the pictures you create determine how you and others react.”

This is where my struggle was during my time of contemplation and application on this subject. I was in a place where Right Mindfulness, and Right Speech were not working together in my favor! The stress of work was getting to me. As I am a firm believer that we create our own environment, I had to remind myself that it was no one’s fault but my own. On the outside, it appeared to others, and even myself, that I was frustrated, and irritated at the actions of some of my co-workers and employees. When, in reality, when I was able to objectively analyze the situation after the fact, it was myself that I was truly frustrated with. I had to ask myself, “How could I have prevented these mistakes from happening?” “What could I have done better to train my team?” “ How could I have reacted better, and how will I react in the future?”

This is where I believe that Right Speech is not just a rule to be practiced outwardly. It begins as an inner dialogue. We can’t think and feel well, if we are not speaking well to others, and to ourselves. Just as George Carlin once said in his 1992 stand-up special, Doin’ It Again:

“…we do think in language. And so the quality of our thoughts and ideas can only be as good as the quality of our language.”

As a business manager, I try my best to practice this. I believe that the example you set is as powerful as the actions you expect from others. For instance, I once worked with someone who would arrive late for work each day with shoulders slumped, and looking like he had already worked twelve rough hours. Instead of the pleasant, motivational greeting one would expect from a leader, he would immediately inform everyone of the tough morning he'd already had, and how bad the rest of the day would be for him, and everyone else. When he would remind us all of the bad day we were having, I would point out that the challenges we had were an opportunity to show our resilience, and our motivation towards success. In addition, I would give him "homework" in the form of two daily routines, which I personally found helped me with my stress, and productivity.

Those routines were as follows:

1.     Wake up early to allow time to set the pace for the day, so that rushing around to get ready does not cause unwanted, or unneeded stress. During that extra time, take a moment to reflect on gratitude, visualize accomplishing the top three priorities for the day, and most importantly, say to yourself, "I'm going to feel great today!"
2.     Before going to bed, conclude the day by reflecting on the day’s accomplishments, and what there is to be grateful for, and how tomorrow will be better. Moreover, tell yourself, "I'm going to feel great tomorrow!"

Of course, he laughed off this assignment with a flippant, "okay, whatever, Paul!"

As a result, things did not get better for him. He continued his negative speech, and thoughts, at the cost of his career.

I give this as an example of my first-hand witness to the perils of WRONG Speech and WRONG Action. Right Understanding puts me on the path of recognizing these perils. Despite that recognition, why did I struggle? Why did I fall victim to anger? I eat right and exercise because I know that the opposite can lead to heart disease, obesity, and diabetes. Likewise, I know that WRONG Speech, WRONG Thought, and WRONG Action can lead to, and be the result of anger. Despite knowing that there is a better way of navigating the stresses and suffering of daily life, I still fell off of the path.

While Buddhism provides a path to the cessation of suffering, it acknowledges that we do in fact suffer, and are subject to negative conditions and emotions. It comes along with the baggage of being a human. And while, expressing your anger may feel liberating as you let out steam, it is not necessarily the most constructive activity for yourself and those around you. As Thich Nhat Hanh states:

“When you express your anger you think that you are getting anger our of your system, but that’s not true… When you express your anger, either verbally or with physical violence, you are feeding the seed of anger, and it becomes stronger in you.”

Or, as my favorite Buddhist, and Jedi, Yoda, once said:

            “…anger leads to hate... hate leads to suffering.”

Not to mention that it just makes others around you uncomfortable, and perhaps, think less of you. This was something I had to contemplate after reflecting on my failings of Right Speech, which resulted in apologies, and requests for forgiveness. Luckily, those I spoke with where very gracious and kind to accept my apologies.

Having put in a lot of hours reading, listening, watching, meditating, and studying about Right Speech, I came away with many great, and useful points, which I should have put into practice to help prevent me from behaving and speaking like a total ass! According to Geshe Tashi Tsering's book, Buddhist Psychology, afflictive emotion, like anger, are not the result of situations that occur to, or around us. They are the result of our rationalizations and attachments to our negative emotions.

The Four Noble Truths states that attachment is the root of suffering, and it is obvious that when we are attached to our negative emotions, we experience suffering. Moreover, those around us suffer as a result of our harsh words and behavior. Our words, when motivated by anger can hurt someone (and ultimately ourselves) more so than the jab of a dagger. Conversely, when motivated by the Buddhist nature of compassion, and loving-kindness, our words can bring about great benefit, relief, and happiness.

I must say, as someone who suffers from having a big mouth, of all of the teachings that I had consumed through my struggle of Right Speech, the best lesson I learned was from the Venerable Guan Cheng. As he states in his dharma talk about Right Speech, Right Speech is sometimes about saying nothing at all. Or, just like my mom would tell me:

“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all!”


As always, please write to me if you have any questions, suggestions, or comments on the subject! Meanwhile, please look at a few of the great pieces of inspiration I found during my exploration of Right Speech. I hope that you enjoy them.

Venerable Guan Cheng’s Dharma Talk on Right Speech:

Buddhist Psychology: The Foundation of Buddhist Thought, Volume 3, by Geshe Tashi Tsering

The Magic Of Thinking Big by David J. Schwartz, Ph.D.

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Right Livelihood -- Or How My Christian Dad Taught Me To Be A Better Buddhist

Contained within the Noble Eightfold Path's teachings of Ethics are Right Action, Right Speech , and Right Livelihood . It is Right L...